
Assorted rants, posts, support, whatnot for those of us who deal with eating disorders, recovery from them, and participation from a real, loving, involved Creator! He's amazing! "Arise!"
Saturday, June 29, 2013
Friday, June 28, 2013
Whatever is pure...
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”
Philippians 4:8
Thursday, June 27, 2013
This Young and Younger...
Startling statistics...
• 50% of girls between the ages of 11 and 13 see themselves as overweight.
• According to Time magazine, 80% of all children have been on a diet by the time they've reached fourth grade.
• 86% of people with eating disorders report onset of an eating disorder by age 20.
• 10% report onset at ten years or younger.
But what if we changed that? Eating disorder, unfortunately, are happening younger and younger. What if, however, self-acceptance, support and recovery happened at those tender ages?
Children are incredible sponges, forming lifelong belief systems which can be positive or negative. Let's promote the positive to counteract the harmful messages, confronting these children, at younger and younger ages!
Childish Things
Growing up, I went from playing with dolls to full-on doll collecting. It became a passion. Alright, it was an obsession. My room was lined with dolls which resembled this image here.
Yeah. It really was a scary, valley of the dolls situation, downright creepy in dim light.
Nevertheless, there they were. And, in the years since, I still love dolls. But I’ve shifted in their importance in my life. Life has created other, more pressing, priorities. In essence, I’ve done some growing up (no snickering, now). To some degree, we’ve all grown up; to some degree, we’re all childish/immature.
And here’s where this scripture comes into play:
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
1 Corinthians 13:11
Part of this life process involves balancing the childlike elements of our lives versus the childish elements. And yes (sigh), it is endless and ongoing. Nevertheless, we need to look at what is staring back at us. We may not have an actual, even creepy doll collection, resembling this image here, but there’s some childish attitude, belief or behavior which needs some adjustment, right?
What do you and I do with our childish things? What does God want us to do with them? Are we asking that question and responding accordingly?
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse

Wednesday, June 26, 2013
The Ego Versus the Soul
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Work In Progress...
J.D. Again...
It bears repeating and believing; there's hope!
“While he yet spake, there came from the ruler of the synagogue's house certain which said, Thy daughter is dead: why troublest thou the Master any further? As soon as Jesus heard the word that was spoken, he saith unto the ruler of the synagogue, Be not afraid, only believe. And he suffered no man to follow him, save Peter, and James, and John the brother of James. And he cometh to the house of the ruler of the synagogue, and seeth the tumult, and them that wept and wailed greatly. And when he was come in, he saith unto them, Why make ye this ado, and weep? the damsel is not dead, but sleepeth. And they laughed him to scorn. But when he had put them all out, he taketh the father and the mother of the damsel, and them that were with him, and entereth in where the damsel was lying. And he took the damsel by the hand, and said unto her, Talitha cumi; which is, being interpreted, Damsel, I say unto thee, arise. And straightway the damsel arose, and walked; for she was of the age of twelve years. And they were astonished with a great astonishment. And he charged them straitly that no man should know it; and commanded that something should be given her to eat.”
Mark 5:35-43
Happy Candy Month! - Being at Peace with Sweets
Monday, June 24, 2013
Brick House
Most of us are familiar with the scripture:
“And said unto them, ‘It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.’”
Matthew 21:13
You know, it’s the scripture where Jesus gets angry with the “moneychangers.”
Anyway, I started thinking about the term “house of prayer.”
And I immediately thought of the song, Brick House” by the Commodores. I know the song’s subject matter is entirely different to the house of prayer issue. After all, the Commodores’ song sings the well-built praises of a physically attractive woman. Contrast that to God’s house of prayer...
“…for my house will be called a house of prayer for all nations."
Isaiah 56:7
But shouldn’t you and I be as strongly built, as formidable in our prayers as an actual brick building?
Don’t we underestimate our own prayer power? After all…
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
James 5:16
It’s one of the biggest lies to believe our prayers don’t matter. Our bodies and our very beings are more important than just physical structures:
“Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you?”
1 Corinthians 3:16
“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.”
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Are we brick houses then? Are you and I a house of prayer? Are we God’s Temple? Are we living that Truth? It’s Truth worth living!
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Sunday, June 23, 2013
Friday, June 21, 2013
What else?
Gotta love the fairytale theme, huh? I ran across this little strip the other day. I don’t know what it’s from originally, but the same annoying fairytale theme of princess beauty, once again, makes me want to climb a tree and scream.
Let’s break it down, shall we?
First panel: the “prince’s” revelation:
Nothing like appreciating the inner beauty and complex attributes.
The “princess” responds to that original observation…
And now, our enlightened prince is stumped…
To which our princess challenges the fairytale prince…
And our dear prince has such an affirming response to that question.
What else is there?
But wait, there’s more. Cue the peanut gallery of popular opinion…
But, not so fast…
Good, good…
Exactly!!!
“Beauty is as beauty does.” Ever hear that? In life, we can’t deny beauty’s power. We’re drawn, captivated, motivated and driving crazy by it. We do dumb things for it. Anyone ever been on the cabbage soup diet or wrapped themselves in saran wrap? We roll our eyes and hear “code” for “inner beauty.” Translation? We hear “ugly.”
But there’s so much to us as women. The Proverbs 31 Woman is exactly who we are. Do we see it? Check out the scripture for yourself:
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
Proverbs 31:10-31
The Proverbs 31 Woman answers the “what else” question. She’s smart, honorable, kind, valuable, trustworthy, industrious, thoughtful, multi-tasking, creative, charitable, astute, prepared, wise, discreet and Godly. Whew! Who needs a nap? I know. It’s a gargantuan order; most of us feel we fall short in each attribute. But this is God’s template for who we are. He didn’t create to strive and compete for beauty; He didn’t create us to feel inferior about ourselves. He wants us to experience the joy in discovering the “what else” aspect of who we are as individuals. What does that mean to each one of us?
So, look at yourself; see yourself as so much more than the ridiculous fairytale images we’re repeated given. We are incredible!!! Look at yourself, ask God and see for yourself: What else?
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Miss Representation
Please check out this amazing documentary!!! Miss Representation!!!
We need to be pro-female, not anti-female!!! All of us!!! We need to change how females are viewed and treated in this world. Caution: it is disturbing; you will get angry. May that anger change things for the better! God never stated the female gender was inferior. We need to change the harmful representation against women, known for too long as "status quo."
A Good and Perfect Girl
Looking at this image, it’s hard not to let out a frustrated sigh.
Here we go again- or STILL. Looking at this sweet little girl, it’s a painful reminder of the hostile reality she faces. According to statistics…
50% of girls between the ages of 11 and 13 see themselves as overweight.
According to Time magazine, 80% of all children have been on a diet by the time they've reached fourth grade.
86% of people with eating disorders report onset of an eating disorder by age 20.
10% report onset at ten years or younger.
(Mirasol: www.mirasol.net)
Eating disorders are not just affecting young adults and teenagers. Now, it’s children. Children!
They’re learning it somewhere, from someone, right?
All the more reason we need to remember and be vigilant about the following scripture:
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Proverbs 22:6
Are we placing such dire importance upon perfection, thinness and image? How do we address and discuss it with our children? They won’t be able to avoid the image issues.
And, with girls, especially, there seems to be an emphasis on pleasing, connected to personal appearance. We may not directly teach the lesson, “you’re a good girl if you’re thin/pretty,” but they learn it, nevertheless.
We can impact the voices, however. We can arm our children with the Truth of God’s Word: you’re already good, wonderful and valuable AS IS!
“Since you were precious in my sight… I have loved you…”
Isaiah 43:4
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
Psalm 139:14
“All things were made by him; and without him was not anything made that was made.”
John 1:3
Let’s tell our children, like this little girl here, they are worthwhile already!
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse

Wednesday, June 19, 2013
“Should We Strive for Perfection or Effectiveness?”
Cruse’s article, “Should We Strive for Perfection or Effectiveness,” featured in June 2013’s Christians In Recovery Magazine, challenging the perfection issue, driving our lives and impacting recovery processes.
The Roar
“The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.”
Proverbs 28:1
Are we roaring in life? According to scripture, we’re to have lion-like boldness. Yeah. I know. We fall very short many times.
We view ourselves not as the lion, but as a tiny kitten. But check out its response…
Rarrrwh!
Are we doing that? After all, we’re not alone in our roaring. We have God.
“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”
Isaiah 41:10
It sounds daunting, to be fearless, to be a lion, to roar with boldness. But it’s doable. Perhaps, if we start out with baby steps, with kitten steps, like this little guy here, we’ll get closer to our loud, conquering roar.
In the meantime, let’s apply scripture to that roar- or absence- of it:
“…even God, who…calleth those things which be not as though they were.”
Romans 4:17
Rawwwrh!!!!
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Tuesday, June 18, 2013
The Size Issue
I recently saw this post about women’s sizes.
There’s been a lot of discussion about this issue, especially in the fashion industry and in the context of body image issues. We’re repeatedly bombarded with “real women” versus model size comparisons. Sizes are shouted at us constantly: “0,” “14,” “2,” “24…”
It goes on and on and on.
And, throughout all of the size discussion and debate, we’re left to navigate through our own personal acceptance and self-esteem issues. Fun times.
We are obsessed with standards which are rigid, unrealistic, harmful and far from Godly. Who, after all, is the ultimate authority on our size, shape and worth? Is it God? Shouldn’t it be God?
“But, O LORD of hosts, that judgest righteously, that triest the reins and the heart, let me see thy vengeance on them: for unto thee have I revealed my cause.”
Jeremiah 11:20
Left to fashion magazines, critics or Hollywood, we are only left disappointed, frustrated and wrongly estimated. After all…
“…Look not on his countenance…for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
1 Samuel 16:7
And, let’s face it the image industries are not concerned with the state of our hearts. There’s no attention to “inner beauty,” whatsoever. And, if they consider any deeper issues at all, it’s how to market to, prey upon and make money off from them. How important it is, then, to protect our heart, issues and all.
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23
But, throughout all of these challenges, it’s still not hopeless; we have God. And look at some of His perspectives on these image issues:
“…I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
Psalm 139:14
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”
Genesis 1:27
“O my dove…let me see your form…for your form is lovely.”
Song of Solomon 2:14
God’s definition of our value, beauty and meaning are not based upon size or shape. There is no mandatory size commandment for us anywhere in scripture.
There is, however, emphasis on the size of HIS love!
“May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.”
Ephesians 3:18-19
What if we concentrated on that size issue instead?
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Monday, June 17, 2013
The Hokey Pokey
The hokey pokey principle is a core element to recovery, isn’t it? How many of us have sung the ditty, danced it at some party or wedding? But there’s relevance to it. For those of us struggling with addiction, disorders and compulsions, what if we did one thing differently. What if we took a different step, said yes where we once said no, said no to what we once responded with yes?
There’s a reason they’re called the 12 “steps” in recovery. They are steps, which, like the hokey pokey, can turn us around. And, what’s at the base of these steps? God! We may choose to overlook that, but, nevertheless, God is right in the middle of them! And He’s involved in our steps; He empowers us with them!
“Doth not he see my ways, and count all my steps?”
Job 31:4
“The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.”
Psalms 37:23
“The law of his God is in his heart; none of his steps shall slide.”
Psalms 37:31
Do we believe and receive that? Do we ask for help from God with our steps, “to turn ourselves around?”
“Order my steps in thy word: and let not any iniquity have dominion over me.”
Psalms 119:133
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:”
Matthew 7:7
God has not changed His Mind about helping us; He will. He is, right now!
So, let’s take a cue from the famous ditty. Let’s do the hokey pokey with our steps. Let’s allow God to help us with them. And let’s allow Him to turn us around!
That’s what it’s all about!
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Saturday, June 15, 2013
Sponsor Chick
The word, sponsor is often used in recovery. We are told repeatedly to maximize our health and healing, we need people. And this rams into the isolated attribute of disorder and addiction. In order to stay hidden in our diseases, we tell ourselves to hole up, to shut ourselves off from the rest of the world. Then, and only then, will we, therefore, be able to control our lives as we see fit. But we’re not in control. There is no way for us to be an island in and of ourselves. We affect- and need people.
God, right from the start, recognized this Truth:
“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
Genesis 2:18
And, if we truly want to improve our lives, let alone, recover, we need perspectives outside of our own. Sponsors, support networks and honest counseling are a part of that.
“Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counselors they are established.”
Proverbs 15:2
“For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.”
Proverbs 11:14
Frustration is inevitable; it’s a part of the process. When we feel like giving up, abandoned everyone and isolating, that’s EXACTLY the time we need to “peep” and reach out, just like this little chick here.
Are you?
And please remember, you’re never alone; you’re never without God.
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”
Psalms 46:1
Please grab your help today!
Copyright © 2013 by Sheryle Cruse
Friday, June 14, 2013
"Your Temple Body"
The June 2013 Serene Scene Magazine features “Your Temple Body,” an article by Cruse. It discusses the body image challenges of the summer season.
Wednesday, June 12, 2013
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Cookie Monster

Sunday, June 9, 2013
Friday, June 7, 2013
Crystal Renn, "Hungry"


Thursday, June 6, 2013
The "When Perfectly Recovered" Issue...

Wednesday, June 5, 2013
Candy Month

Monday, June 3, 2013
Sunday, June 2, 2013
Edith

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