Monday, February 4, 2019

Urgent? Why?




I must admit, my favorite question is “why?”

I ask it a lot: of The Most High, of others, of myself, of life.

And yes, I ask the why question concerning the tricky addiction/recovery issue.

Author, Jonathan Lockwood Huie really takes that matter to task, using two words.

“Urgent? Why?”

It’s not merely a question; it’s a statement...about the significance of urgency.

And this is right up addiction’s alley. The fix driving the addiction- why?

Why is this my answer?

Why will this solve things?

Why will nothing else do?

Why must I be instantly healed?

It is that last question which brought two scripture passages to my mind: Jairus’ daughter and Lazarus.

First, let’s look at Jairus’ daughter (Mark 5:22-42).

If you know anything about me and the writing I’ve done over the years, this bit of scripture is close to my heart. It lit the fuse to the creation and publication of my book, “Thin Enough.” And it provided life-changing revelation and healing concerning my faith and eating disorder issues.

Let’s review its power.

Jesus was out and about one day...

“22 And, behold, there cometh one of the rulers of the synagogue, Jairus by name; and when he saw him, he fell at his feet,

23 And besought him greatly, saying, ‘My little daughter lieth at the point of death: I pray thee, come and lay thy hands on her, that she may be healed; and she shall live.’

24 And Jesus went with him; and much people followed him, and thronged him.

So, okay, Jesus has set about to deal with this urgent matter. Things look hopeful.

And then life interrupted. There was a woman in need of healing...

25 And a certain woman, which had an issue of blood twelve years,

26 And had suffered many things of many physicians, and had spent all that she had, and was nothing bettered, but rather grew worse,

Now, I know if I were Jairus or any of the disciples, I’d start feeling like Jesus was getting distracted.

“Come on, Lord. You already promised to take care of this life and death matter and administer miracles for Jairus. We’re not in a position to over-schedule here!”

Still, Jesus was Jesus. So, that meant He tended to her situation also, even in the face of a “booked appointment.”

And how could He not? Her desperate circumstances prompted her bold move to seek Jesus for her healing...

27 When she had heard of Jesus, came in the press behind, and touched his garment.

28 For she said, ‘If I may touch but his clothes, I shall be whole.’

29 And straightway the fountain of her blood was dried up; and she felt in her body that she was healed of that plague.

Now, keep in mind, this malady existed for years. She suffered for years.

So, in this moment, suddenly, she was healed? Really?

That sounds quite powerful and unbelievable.

And what contributes to its impact, if we look closely is how, indeed, this healing not only affected her, but Our Savior as well...

30 And Jesus, immediately knowing in himself that virtue had gone out of him, turned him about in the press, and said, ‘Who touched my clothes?’

31 And his disciples said unto him, ‘Thou seest the multitude thronging thee, and sayest thou, Who touched me?’

32 And he looked round about to see her that had done this thing.

He was moved by her actions. What was the factor which made all the difference? Faith.

33 But the woman fearing and trembling, knowing what was done in her, came and fell down before him, and told him all the truth.

34 And he said unto her, ‘Daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace, and be whole of thy plague.’

I think we underestimate this Truth too often.

Faith... in an interruption...

Faith... in imperfect lives...

 Faith...in the midst of disease...

Faith...in the middle of...addiction?

One can reason, perhaps, while this woman was afflicted for years, her faith was also being fine- tuned, stretched and strengthened. I’m sure none of it felt great in the process.

Indeed, God, it seems, was in no hurry to develop something as important as that attribute.

“Urgent? Why?”

It takes as long as it takes until...

Pow! Results!

This woman with the issue of blood illustrates faith, healing and the Most High in action, spiting circumstances and schedules. He works regardless.

Furthermore, He does not have preferential treatment of anyone (Romans 2:11; Deuteronomy 10:17; Galatians 2:6; Job 34:19; Acts 10:34).

If there is a person needing healing standing in front of another person needing healing, His desire is to heal them both.

Any human-imposed “deadline” on making that happen, therefore, is a nonfactor to Him.

Which brings us back to the original matter at hand: Jairus’ daughter...

35 While he yet spake, there came from the ruler of the synagogue's house certain which said, ‘Thy daughter is dead: why troublest thou the Master any further?’

While fresh from performing one miraculous healing, Jesus gets slammed with the dreaded bad news: “She’s dead.”

So, it’s over, huh?

Not so fast...

36 As soon as Jesus heard the word that was spoken, he saith unto the ruler of the synagogue, ‘Be not afraid, only believe.’

But, because Jesus knew human beings only too well, He decided He needed to take drastic action.

Undeterred, He proceeded in His intentions to heal the girl, with absolutely no doubters or naysayers in the room.

37 And he suffered no man to follow him, save Peter, and James, and John the brother of James.

And, oh yeah, also helpful to this negative environment? There was also drama going on.

38 And he cometh to the house of the ruler of the synagogue, and seeth the tumult, and them that wept and wailed greatly.

39 And when he was come in, he saith unto them, ‘Why make ye this ado, and weep? the damsel is not dead, but sleepeth.’

I can almost hear the groaning, the sobbing and the fussiness from everyone. I’m sure there were a lot of “ugly cries” on faces.

And, of course, everyone still had the presence of mind to answer His reassuring declaration with a logical response...

40 And they laughed him to scorn...

(Sigh).

People...

 Am I right?

Still, Jesus was not interested in suffering fools...

“...But when he had put them all out, he taketh the father and the mother of the damsel, and them that were with him, and entereth in where the damsel was lying.

Verse 40

He gets right down to business...

41 And he took the damsel by the hand, and said unto her, ‘Talitha cumi;’ which is, being interpreted, ‘Damsel, I say unto thee, arise.’

What followed next was the reaction of our dramatic, fussy, whiny and impatient critics...

42 And straightway the damsel arose, and walked; for she was of the age of twelve years. And they were astonished with a great astonishment.”

So, this miracle was noteworthy. It should have removed all doubts about His Power.

However, things being what they are concerning the human race, you and I know it’s just not that simple. Scripture tells us to have everything established by two or three witnesses (2 Corinthians 13:1).

Okay. Just to make sure things weren’t a fluke, let’s check out another situation, one, in which death is already a reality.

Oh, Lazarus...

Scripture (John 11:11-46) sets the stage; Lazarus is dead.

“After he had said this, he went on to tell them, “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep; but I am going there to wake him up.”

12 His disciples replied, “Lord, if he sleeps, he will get better.” 13 Jesus had been speaking of his death, but his disciples thought he meant natural sleep.

14 So then he told them plainly, “Lazarus is dead, 15 and for your sake I am glad I was not there, so that you may believe...

Seeing is believing, right?

...But let us go to him.”

Yep, they went, even though things look bleak.

16 Then Thomas...said to the rest of the disciples, ‘Let us also go, that we may die with him.’”

Well, that’s the spirit...

So, while that cheery outlook is happening, oh, yeah, Jesus proceeds to comfort the dead guy’s sisters. But only one of them happened to show up.

17 On his arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days...19 and many Jews had come to Martha and Mary to comfort them in the loss of their brother. 20 When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home.

You would think these sisters would enthusiastically appreciate this caring concern.

Well...

21 ‘Lord,’ Martha said to Jesus, ‘if you had been here, my brother would not have died.’

Passive-aggressive translation: “You’re late.”

22 ‘But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.’

Uh, can we say, patronizing?

23 Jesus said to her, ‘Your brother will rise again.’

The calm reassurance proceeds, even despite this dead scene.

To which we get this response...

24 Martha answered, “I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.”

‘Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know, someday’ is her thinking process.

After all, when death is right there in your face, your consolation prize is often the “someday” hope.

But there was still a challenging concept and question for this particular sister, even in this dire situation...

25 Jesus said to her, ‘I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; 26 and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?’

And, in spite of the painful circumstances, Martha, however half-heartedly, accepts the radical thought and answers with a yes.

27 ‘Yes, Lord,’ she replied, ‘I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, who is to come into the world.’

Still, with that being said, stuff needs to get done.

It’s time to get the other sister involved.

28 After she had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary aside. ‘The Teacher is here,’ she said, ‘and is asking for you.’ 29 When Mary heard this, she got up quickly and went to him. 30 Now Jesus had not yet entered the village, but was still at the place where Martha had met him. 31 When the Jews who had been with Mary in the house, comforting her, noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her, supposing she was going to the tomb to mourn there.

Let’s see what happens.

32 When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet and said, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.”

Again with the passive-aggressive translation: “You’re late.”

Sisters of a feather, I guess.

Still, her distraught response didn’t change the effect she had on Him...

33 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.

Okay, okay. Jesus might have thought, “Showtime. Gotta prove it. Faith is running low here.”

34 ‘Where have you laid him?’ he asked.

‘Come and see, Lord,’ they replied.

35 Jesus wept.

There has been a lot of conversation and speculation about verse thirty-five. Most children, when faced with the challenge of memorizing and reciting Bible verses, hope for the opportunity to parrot this one, the shortest verse in the Bible.

And, over the centuries, debates have questioned what, exactly, Jesus was weeping about.

Was it sorrow for the sisters?

Was it the frustration of people doubting the loving and miraculous power of the Most High?

Was it Jesus’ genuine love for Lazarus himself?

It all started here and now, in this moment...

36 Then the Jews said, ‘See how he loved him!’

It looks like we might just have some compassionate folks who finally get the power of love. But we’re not out of the woods yet.

For, human beings being human beings, we, a few seconds later, have some spectators, piping in with their critiques...

37 But some of them said, ‘Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?’

There is just such a human need to express oneself, isn’t there?

In any case, it is the moment of Truth; our Messiah knows He has to get to work.

38 Jesus, once more deeply moved, came to the tomb. It was a cave with a stone laid across the entrance. 39 ‘Take away the stone,’ he said.

‘But, Lord,’ said Martha, the sister of the dead man, ‘by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.’

The stinky argument is a legitimate concern, I suppose.

Still, our Savior had to have been at least slightly irritated with all of the “but, but, but” reasons arguing against the Divine.

40 Then Jesus said, ‘Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?’

“Which part of ‘I am the Resurrection and the Life’ did you NOT understand?”

Hopeful, embarrassed or convicted, we’re not sure, exactly, what state of mind the peanut gallery was operating from.

Nevertheless, they obliged.

41 So they took away the stone...

And then a power prayer, specifically designed to prove, to everyone, the reality of God’s love and desire to heal...

...Then Jesus looked up and said, ‘Father, I thank you that you have heard me. 42 I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me.’

And now, drumroll, please...

43 When he had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, ‘Lazarus, come out!’

You must have been able to hear a pin drop in that moment.

 44 The dead man came out, his hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth around his face...

Ta-dah!!!

Now let’s get Lazarus back to the land of the living.

...Jesus said to them, ‘Take off the grave clothes and let him go.’

So, yet again, in verse forty-five, we see the results of God’s timing and power, even in spite of an “urgent” situation...

...Therefore many of the Jews who had come to visit Mary, and had seen what Jesus did, believed in him.”

As we go about our individual recovery processes, at some point, each of us needs to challenge our own “urgent why questions.” We do have them. They are as unique as snowflakes.

 “Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, ‘Why hast thou made me thus?’”

Romans 9:20

If we learn anything from the accounts of Jairus’ daughter and Lazarus, it is the reality of healing, of recovery, coming not necessarily in a typical fashion or in an instant “presto-change-o” way.

 It is, instead, the deeper, more gradual, lengthier experience of “years-in-the-making.”

 It is, perhaps, the seemingly absurd “against all odds” defiance of hopeless circumstances.

It is the Most High God doing a thorough, meaningful and life-affirming work, one which will not be rushed because of any “urgent’s” desperate plea.

Where are you right now?

Are you wanting God to speed your healing?

Are you wanting the instantaneous, painless cure?

Are you wanting “life more abundant” (John 10:10)?

Are you wanting your urgent way or God’s way?

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”

Isaiah 55:8-9

When things seem too hopeless and impossible for us, we need to remember they are not for a very Specific Someone Else...

“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for Me?”

Jeremiah 32:27

So, with that in mind, really, where is the urgency?

“Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:”

Isaiah 46:10

Copyright © 2019 by Sheryle Cruse


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Friday, February 1, 2019

Optical Illusion: Liar?




Recently, on social media, I saw a brain teaser trending. It was an image that, at first glance, looked like a face. It stated, “Share when you see a word,” asking us to look beyond this face value.

And, upon doing so, at a certain angle, one can see a dotted “I” where the nose/nostril is, along with an “a” for the mouth and an “r” creating the chin and neck. And starting the entire face, there is an elaborate “L,” making up the two eyes.

So, when we spell the face, what word do we get?

Answer: liar.

The face of addiction, right there, ladies and gentlemen.

The old joke asks,

How do you tell if an addict is lying?

Answer: His/her lips are moving.

That’s some punchline truth, isn’t it?

Yes, if you and I look at any form of our addictions, we inevitably encounter the role our deception plays in their proliferation and their destruction of all we hold dear.

Scripture has much to say about truth versus lies, offering warnings and consequences about the paths we choose. And we can see those spiritual principles in the twelve steps. There’s incredible benefit in applying them should we choose to do so.

The first step confronts our powerlessness.

1.      We admitted we were powerless over our addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.

That usually shows up as a chaotic life, also known as trouble.

“He whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.”


If the disease is our addiction, then one of the first glaring symptoms we experience is any kind of problem: relational, marital, financial, physical or legal are a few examples of reality showcasing how unmanageable our lives have become.

Therefore, cue step number two...

We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

As we’re sorting through our individual representations of trouble, we hit a reality wall of needing God. In short, we have to tell the truth to and about ourselves.

And that’s no easy feat. For, to operate in addiction, deception has become our “go-to,” rescuing us from confrontation, responsibility, failure and uncomfortable situations.

“You love evil rather than good, falsehood rather than speaking the truth.”


But, before we fall in love with our lying ways all over again, we need to remind ourselves that our rock bottoms were all too painfully real.

We need to remember our lies got us into the mess; God and His Truth, therefore, will need to help extricate us from our various disasters.

So, we are in a moment like no other. We need to decide what to do with our addictions and our God. We need to answer a question. Will we accept or reject His intervention in our lives?

Yes...or no?

This is called a decision. It’s also called the next step. Do we take it?

3.      We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.

God, by His very Nature, cannot lie (Numbers 23:19). Therefore, if we expect to bring lies and excuses instead of brutal truth before Him, we are not going to get the results we desire or need. And whatever results we DO obtain, will not be sustained.

“Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.”


Again, we see the protection which comes from being in the truth...

“The truth shall set you free.”

John 8:32

But that truth does not promise to be easy or painless. Often, facing truth is the hardest thing we will ever do.

This, therefore, is the work of steps four through nine...

4.      We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5.      We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6.      We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

7.      We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8.      We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9.      We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

These steps are focused on changed behavior. They exchange a destructive one for a healthier one. These steps exchange lies for truth, evasiveness for transparency. The reasons for these exchanges involve the relational, human experience and our need to repair whatever damage we have caused.

“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”


Scripture, again, brings it home: “we are all members of one body.”

And this friendly reminder sets the stage for the purpose of the remaining steps, ten through twelve...

10.  We continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.

11.  We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12.  Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

We started in a place of confronting and accepting ugly truth; then, we accepted God’s help with it. Next, we needed to face and change behavior in the relational context, accepting how our addiction caused pain and destruction. Those are all important. But there’s still more work to do.

The “more” of that work refers to its ongoing nature. We need to keep doing it. What is the recovery adage?

“It works if you work it.”

Scripture, the twelve steps and truth all act as guardrails, hedging us in safely. And that is a key point to remember as we choose truth over deception. It’s more than just being a good, honest person; it is also about being a healthy, honest person.

“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”


In recovery, the expression goes, “You’re as sick as your secrets.”

And, for most of us, those secrets are some version of a lie- and some form of impending destruction.

Therefore, as we deal with our addictions and recovery from them, we need to do more than just work the steps and the reading of some Bible verses. We need to truly examine how both truth and deception operate in our lives- even to this day. Like the image brain teaser, when we study what we think we already see, is there, in fact, something quite different there?

And then, what are we going to do with that optical illusion’s actual truth?

Copyright © 2019 by Sheryle Cruse


The Genius Calling Card




I’m a huge fan of classic cartoons. The Roadrunner, in particular, always makes me smile.

Recently, I stumbled across an image, featuring Wile. E. Coyote’s “calling card,” which read “Genius.” 

And it immediately reminded me of a famous Albert Einstein quote…

“Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

All of us, to one degree or another, have been affected by incorrectly viewing ourselves and our worth. And there are many of us who have experienced this at its most extreme. Traumatic abuse and mistreatment can convey the message we are worthless and stupid because of (fill in the blank with any personal reason given by the abusive person)…

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”

Proverbs 18:21

This scripture is there to instruct us on the power of words in our lives; they can either heal or wound. And it’s within the wounding where we often internalize the wrong message on our calling cards. We do not see our incredible genius or value; we only see the worst.

But this is not who we are. First of all, we are made in God’s Image…

“And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”

Genesis 1:26-27

Furthermore, we also need to keep in mind we are created for purpose.

“For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him.”

Colossians 1:16

“Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.”

John 1:3

“For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen.”

Romans 11:36

And, because of those two things, we can, therefore, experience the ridicule, the oppression and the rejection of this thing called life.

“…Your own people who hate you, and exclude you because of my name, have said, 'Let the LORD be glorified, that we may see your joy!' Yet they will be put to shame.’”

Isaiah 66:5

After all, look who experienced it first?

“If the world hates you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.”

John 15:18

 “You will be hated by everyone because of me...”

Matthew 10:22

 “He was in the world, and the world was made by him, and the world knew him not. He came unto his own, and his own received him not.”

John 1:10-11

Again, it has to do with our self-image. What is on our calling cards? Is it “genius” or “worthless?”

Let’s all be card-carrying members of that first option!

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Jeremiah 29:11

“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”

Psalm 139:14

Copyright © 2019 by Sheryle Cruse


Speaking the Foreign Language




“Rétablissement” is the French word describing recovery from illness or injury. Similarly, the phrase, “être en cure de désintoxication” has as its English translation, “to be in recovery from drugs, alcohol, et cetera.”

I recently stumbled across some old vocabulary flashcards from my two years of high school French class. Some things have stuck with me years later, like reciting the alphabet and singing the Christmas carol, “Silent Night,” à la française.


Yet, as I was flipping through the flashcards, I was re-reminded of just how much I had forgotten.


Seldom used words...


Factory is “l’usine.”


Waste basket is “la corbeille.”


On and on... you get the idea.


Anyway, these flashcards started me thinking. In life, learning another language and learning our faith and recovery are somewhat similar in their principles.


First, we need to acknowledge there is a language difference.

On the first day of class, our teacher, Madame Thomas, started speaking only in French. This spooked us.

For, there is, indeed, a helplessness when you don’t speak the language. You feel stupid. And you feel an urgency to get any kind of better handle on the situation.

But, Madame Thomas wanted us to, from the start, realize this was not the comfortable English-speaking situation we were used to. Our limited American experience was not the only way to live and be. We needed to face that and adapt.

“Toto, we’re not in Kansas anymore,” so to speak.

Concerning matters of faith, the dynamic translates to just how little we know and see.

“For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part...”

1 Corinthians 13:12

Our spiritual experience, known as our human lives, involves definitions of our Creator and our relationship with that Creator. Life challenges us with lessons on how to navigate that relationship within the constraints of obstacles, pain, death, loss and, for a certain segment of us, addictions.

Whether it’s the connected relationship, a healthy recovery process or learning a new language, we need to recognize we are out of our element. And we need to get with the program.

Then we need to commit to learning that language.

With all of us assembled in Madame Thomas’ class, it was understood we would focus on the French language.

Not Spanish. Not Russian. Not German.

French.

By our voluntary choice of this elective class, none of us could be surprised if that was, indeed, la langue du jour every blooming day we stepped into the room. We agreed to the romance language, with its conjugation of verbs and hopefully, some kind of mastery of basic conversation skills.

Yet, it was astounding how often we wanted Madame Thomas to speak English over French, simply because it was easier for us to understand. The path of least resistance, I suppose. Our so-called commitment to learn a foreign language didn’t seem to be visible. We wanted to learn it, but not if it was strange to us.

And isn’t that also the case concerning matters of our faith and/or our recovery? We want improvement and health, but we want our old ways too. Scripture confronts us on this agreement/commitment matter:

“Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”

Amos 3:3

We have to choose. If we want our cake and the luxury of eating it too, we are double minded.

“A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”

James 1:8

With that perspective, we won’t get much of anything, goals and fulfillment included.

The discomfort which comes from learning an unfamiliar language taught me, concerning lifestyle and life quality issues, you cannot have it both ways.

“Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee.

Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established.”

Proverbs 4:25-26

“If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land. But if ye refuse and rebel, ye shall be devoured with the sword: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it.”

Isaiah 1:19- 20

We need to dismantle our familiar habits. We need to admit we don’t know everything, as clever as we believe ourselves to be.

Likewise, we don’t know everything about what is truly best for us. That’s how many of us have landed in the dysfunction, addiction and current assorted messes we find ourselves in. Our hearts and minds weren’t fully focused on a particular thing in the first place, be in language, health or recovery.

And, as some of my classmates decided, we’d “check out,” losing any enthusiasm we had, in favor of believing any discouraging and harmful lie.

We believe it won’t work.

We can’t do it.

It’s just not worth the time and trouble.

But the clichés of never giving in, pushing past the pain and following through are true. There is a pleasure in the hard-fought payoff.

With learning French, it was successfully carrying on a conversation, understanding and speaking it correctly. And, of course, passing the class.

With health and recovery matters, it’s about trusting the process. We need to surrender our “business as usual” attitude and embrace the strange foreign work of sobriety and making healthy choices. By getting a 30-day chip, examining the drives compelling us to seek our addictions and enjoying the positive health benefits of stopping our destructions, we associate our payoff with “doing the work.” That work begins when we learn and use the word, “help.”

While we’re on the subject of words, we need to adopt the next principle, as it applies to both learning other languages and dealing with our life issues.

We need to practice the language.

In my high school French class, it wasn’t enough to read about the language in textbooks; we had to also speak it. That meant regular drill sessions from Madame Thomas, frequently beginning with, “Bonjour, ça va?”

(“Hello, how are you?”)

Now, if we responded with stuttering or, heaven forbid, English words, she immediately retorted with, “En française, s’il vous plaît.”

(In French, please).

Again, there’s a theme going on. In French language class, we were required to speak French.

Go figure.

This “no brainer” concept can also translate spiritually as we pursue both our faith and our recovery journeys. It’s the rubber meets the road, action-oriented approach.

Do it. Speak it. Live it.

 “The sower soweth the word.”

Mark 4:14

There is no getting around it: the language will be unfamiliar to us. Without the practice, making the unfamiliar less so, we will not be fluent in any foreign truth.

“For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror; for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty, and abides by it, not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer, this man will be blessed in what he does.”

James 1:23-25

It is represented in not only another culture’s languages, but also in learning our inherent human value and what constitutes healthy love and grace for us, as documented in scripture.

“The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, ‘Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.’”

                                                             Jeremiah 31:3

“To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.”

 Ephesians 1:6

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Jeremiah 29:11

And that reality extends to the next lesson...

We need to understand there is purpose regarding that foreign language, object or circumstance, even if/when it is unfamiliar to us.

“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:”

Ecclesiastes 3:1

What is the purpose of language?

Answer: to teach and to communicate.

Similarly, what is the purpose of scripture and spiritual principles?

Answer: to teach and to communicate.

We may agree with that theory, but usually, in some way, we fight against it.

Again, we are back to Madame Thomas’ class. None of us fluently spoke the French language. All of us, by virtue of our taking the class, said yes to a truth: we have something to learn.

“For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part...”

1 Corinthians 13:12

So, shouldn’t we be a-learning already?

And here’s where things can get embarrassing.

Usually, some personal sense of entitlement pops up. It expects this learning to be easy, effortless and free from any frustration or obstacle. It demands we should be given every answer, explanation and solution because we want it.

Cater to us; indulge us. Pamper us. Speak English to us, France.

There is no “teach us” to be found for miles.

To acknowledge our need to learn involves humility. And humility is not nearly as much fun as entitlement. Let’s be real- we want the fun.

In my French class, we were taught how, in other, non- English-speaking cultures, like France, the citizens of that country fully expect any foreign visitors to at least attempt to speak their language.

And here is where the unflattering caricature of the obnoxious American tourist emerges. A French national once spoke to our class, half- amused, half- irritated, as he shared stories of how easily a French person could immediately spot an American tourist.

“First of all, they are very loud. You usually hear them before you see them. And then, once you see them, they are often dressed very loud as well, wearing a lot of bright colors. Sometimes, they wear those Hawaiian shirts. We don’t dress like that in France; we wear a lot of black. And then, they usually approach us to ask for help, speaking only English, expecting the conversation to be solely in English, not French. And that is offensive to us. They refuse to acknowledge they are in another culture apart from America.”

He then went on to describe how, in this frustrated state, some French citizens are even apt to mess with the American tourist.

“We will give them the wrong directions or information. We won’t tell them where the closest bathrooms are located. If they cannot be bothered to try to communicate correctly with us, why should we communicate correctly with them?”

There’s some revelation to be found in these cultural experiences, as it involves our spiritual relationship with the Most High God. For, He, like the French citizen, has repeatedly come down to our level to relate to, help and teach us, the struggling American tourist.

“I have chosen you and have not cast you away.”

Isaiah 41:9

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go: I will guide you with My eye.”

Psalm 32:8

We, however, need to properly reciprocate as that vulnerable tourist. We need to put an effort and a value into learning Who He is and who we are to Him, however incomplete those lessons may be. It is in this placed priority where the value rests; it’s our decision to go beyond lip service to full-fledged action.

 “The sower soweth the word.”

Mark 4:14

Words, indeed, eventually frame action. They lead somewhere.

“Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.”

Hebrews 11:3

Words translate into a number of other substantial things. If we use or embody any representation of a word, be it spiritually positive or destructive in nature, honestly, what are we expecting to be on the flipside of that vocabulary flashcard?

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”


What are we saying?

What are we meaning?

What are we wanting?

What are we expecting?

How is it translating?

What are we doing with those results we receive?

And are we truly wanting those translations?

Oui or Non?

Copyright © 2019 by Sheryle Cruse






Fear: To Be a Slave






“...‘We have heard a voice of trembling, of fear, and not of peace.’”

Jeremiah 30:5



“Fear” is spoken of over 500 times in the Bible. So, to me, that signifies it’s a topic worth noting.

I believe the 1980’s science fiction film, “Bladerunner” makes a powerful statement on fear.




There are various discussions about the story and the complexity of the Roy Batty character in particular. He’s often viewed as the villain. But, if we dig deeper, perhaps there’s more to the story.



Batty is a kind of futuristic robot who has an expiration date of four years. This tactic is implemented to ensure that, in the event a robot develops troublesome feelings, emotions and agendas, humanity is safeguarded by the possible destruction the robot could cause.



However, Roy Batty has apparently experienced these turbulent human emotions firsthand; hence, he is viewed as that much-feared threat to human beings.



Therefore, the “bladerunner,” a robot killer for hire, is assigned the task of destroying him before it’s too late.



And, after Batty’s rampage and search for knowledge about his existence, he eventually shares his observation on fear.



“Quite an experience to live in fear, isn’t it? That’s what it’s like to be a slave.”



Scripture immediately sprung to my mind at this point in the film...



“... fear hath torment...”

1 John 4:18



I may be alone in my compassion for Roy. But I do not see him as the inherently malevolent villain. Rather, much like Frankenstein’s monster, I see the scared and sad creation of an ego-driven individual whose arrogance authored this destruction.



Fear is a painful and disorienting plague often testing every human being. No one escapes it; no one is left untouched by it.



“Men's hearts failing them for fear...”

Luke 21:26



Scripture, indeed, cautions us on its trap...



“The fear of man bringeth a snare...”

Proverbs 29:25



But Proverbs 29:25 goes on to offer us some hope, even in the midst of its warning...



“... but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe.”

Proverbs 29:25



“The Great I Am,” indeed, is our Source to everything we need, desire and yearn for. Freedom is essential to those Divine gifts.



“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. We love him, because he first loved us.”

1 John 4:18-19



However, the challenge arises when many of our lives, in one way or another, have experienced some version of enslavement. Struggles with abuse, addiction, neglect and loss have taught us to be afraid. Yes, we learned how to fear. Life somehow broke our hearts and created our reached conclusions:



“I’m not lovable.”

I’m not wanted.”

“I’m not enough.”

“I’m not safe.”



These conclusions enslave us. They have us looking at our past, present and future with doubt and dread. If we’re not careful, we can come to the point where we believe life is not worth living. Suicidal mindsets flourish because, we may believe death is a welcomed alternative to our enslaved circumstances.



Even Divine Intervention can appear to be too oppressive, disappointing and pointless. We can reach a decision: it’s hopeless.



Yet, it is here where we need to discern the spirits (1 John 4:1). It’s important we recognize the spirit of enslavement comes not from the Most High God. It we experience hopelessness, dread and despair, it comes from a place of evil.



“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

2 Timothy 1:7



The Most High desires our freedom even more than we do.



 “For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.”

Romans 8:15



We need to tap into that. And, even if we are in the middle of any kind of oppression or bondage, the Almighty has that covered as well.



“And it shall come to pass in the day that the LORD shall give thee rest from thy sorrow, and from thy fear, and from the hard bondage wherein thou wast made to serve.”

Isaiah14:3



Roy Batty’s perspective is echoed in the many young people I encounter. They come from lives filled with disorder, abuse and addiction.



I hear their voices tell me “I’m trapped and I’m scared.”



Fear is something each of us faces in life. It does not signify weakness, failure, illegitimacy, un-lovability or disqualification.



Experiencing fear means we are human.



And, as those human beings, you and I are spoken to directly WHEN, NOT IF, we fear...



“Say to them that are of a fearful heart, ‘Be strong, fear not: behold, your God will come with vengeance, even God with reparations; he will come and save you.’”

Isaiah 35:4



There is hope; there is freedom!



Our Creator, indeed, created you to experience this freedom; you are, in no way, to be a slave.



Dare to believe that and experience the liberation the Divine wants you to live!



Copyright © 2019 by Sheryle Cruse