Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Disaster Or Star?


 


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"Lift up your eyes on high And see who has created these stars, The One who leads forth their host by number, He calls them all by name; Because of the greatness of His might and the strength of His power, Not one of them is missing.”


The word, “disaster,” comes from “astro: stars” and “dis: without.”

For those of us who struggle with recovery from the addiction, disorder, abuse and trauma in our lives, it can be difficult to feel we are special. In our various states of degradation, we often feel far removed from being a shiny star.

But, it is, perhaps, within this context, where we most embody those celestial beings the most.

“Thus says the LORD, the Holy One of Israel, and his Maker: ‘Ask Me about the things to come concerning My sons, And you shall commit to Me the work of My hands. It is I who made the earth, and created man upon it I stretched out the heavens with My hands And I ordained all their host.’”


Stars, in essence, serve to remind us who we are and Who The Most High is.

"Those who have insight will shine brightly like the brightness of the expanse of heaven, and those who lead the many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever.


 “To Him who made the great lights, For His lovingkindness is everlasting: The sun to rule by day, For His lovingkindness is everlasting, The moon and stars to rule by night, For His lovingkindness is everlasting.”


They have even played a role in our Savior’s arrival.



"...For we saw His star in the east and have come to worship Him."





 “Star formation is the process by which dense regions within molecular clouds in interstellar space, sometimes referred to as "stellar nurseries" or "star-forming regions", fuse to form stars...”

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Star_formation

These bodies’ formations involve the incubation of “stellar nurseries.”

Viewing this information through the recovery lens, I see how these nurseries are our experiences, our brain chemistries, our genetics and the individual soul work we are purposed to execute.

And, yes, another necessary ingredient to the process? Darkness.

“And the light shines in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not.”


When we are in the valley of the shadow of death, light seems impossible to access. Nevertheless, the Light of the Most High is leading us...

“I will bless the LORD, who hath given me counsel: my reins also instruct me in the night seasons.”

Psalm 16:7

 “Yet the LORD will command his lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night his song shall be with me...”

Psalm 42:8

Like the birth of a star, who we are, what we’ve endured and our uniqueness take time. The process cannot be rushed. It will be what it must be in its own time. It is is not to be confused with denial or hopelessness. We are stars being formed, creating all of the necessary components we need to emanate the version of light Elohim has designed for us to emit.

“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”


 

No one is a disaster. We are stars in formation.

We can and will shine.

Copyright © 2017 by Sheryle Cruse

 

 

 

 

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Traditions: No Effect


 

“Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things do ye.”

Mark 7:13

The holiday season is all about traditions. Families build their own, everything from the food to the decorations to the outings.

Traditions can be wonderful. However, seen through the prism of eating disorder rituals, they can be imprisoning.

“Rituals are both a tactic not to eat and also a piece of obsessionality associated with anorexia. When eating disorders are starting, people will try to make it look like they are eating by cutting things up and shifting food around on the plate so as to not draw attention to how little they are eating.”

Cynthia Bulik, PhD, eating disorder specialist at the University of North Carolina- Chapel Hill

Traditions, rituals- it all represents the same unrealistic expectation: perfection and a sense of safety.

These rituals can be anything: counting to a specific number how many times one chews his/her food before swallowing, meticulously counting calories or eating from the same bowl and spoon, in example. There’s an exacting precision attached to keeping these behaviors- and a dreadful fear if one is unable to do so.

It certainly doesn’t make the holiday season very joyful. And God has desired abundance for us:

“…I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”’

John 10:10

Furthermore, God has given us freedom to choose:

 “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.”

1 Corinthians 10:23

“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”

1 Corinthians 6:12

For someone struggling with disordered eating, however, that’s easier read than lived.

Yet, if we face our own truth about why we do what we do, fully aware of perfection’s demanding and impossible nature, we can ease up on ourselves and be fully present with the holidays as they occur.

“It may be helpful to realize that the "picture-book" holiday sense is not a reality for many people. Some cannot afford it, there are many single people who are not close to their families or do not have a family, and there are many families that do not fit into the dominant cultural model of "family". Do not blame yourself for family or friendship conflicts. People are not different during the holidays than any other time of the year. Remember that you are responsible only for your own actions and for taking care of yourself.”

NEDIC Bulletin: Vol. 7, Coping With the Holidays

National Eating Disorder Information Centre (NEDIC)


And that’s more powerful and life-giving than any ritual!

Copyright © 2017 by Sheryle Cruse

 

 

A Holiday No


 

As we get closer and closer to Christmas, the anxiety levels seem to amp up. Or am I the only one feeling it? We’re inundated with Christmas spirit, family, obligations and all manner of “should’s.” Festive, isn’t it?

And it’s during this time, fear, guilt, regret and resentment come hurdling toward us. A running thought is whatever we do or don’t do, “it’s not good enough.”

Again, festive.

So, I’ve become quite aware of an important holiday word. Perhaps you’ve heard of it? No.

Not snow. Not ho, as in ho, ho, ho. No.

The holidays- let get real- are just too much. Too much food, too much lights, too much decoration, too much activities, too much expectations, too much stimulation, too much stuff. And it all demands we say “yes” to it.

And, in doing so, we are anything but merry.

So, this holiday, let’s give a different kind of gift- the gift of no. It, perhaps,, is not the most noble or fuzzy choice, but it’s still very much an acceptable one for each one of us.

We have limits, even concerning Christmas and everything surrounding it. God knows this already.

“For he knoweth our frame; he remembereth that we are dust.”

Psalms 103:14

It’d probably be a great idea if we remembered the same.

We need to keep in mind the people pleasing thing running amuck, driving us into some kind of emotional, physical or spiritual ground. It’s okay. If no one has told you that already, please let me be the one to tell you now.

It’s okay. You have permission to say no. The world will not end.

I love the advice from NEDIC, advising eating disorder sufferers on how to navigate the stressful holiday season. Here are a few of their tips. I believe they work for us all:

Predict high stress times and places; decide which events you will and won't attend, and plan to have some time to yourself to restore yourself and take care of your own needs.

Predict which people might make you most uncomfortable and plan appropriate ways of excusing yourself from their company.

Predict negative thoughts that you might have during the holidays, and practice thinking differently.

Carry with you a list of phone numbers of friends and crisis lines, and a list of self-soothing activities.

It may be helpful to realize that the "picture-book" holiday sense is not a reality for many people. Some cannot afford it, there are many single people who are not close to their families or do not have a family, and there are many families that do not fit into the dominant cultural model of "family." Do not blame yourself for family or friendship conflicts. People are not different during the holidays than any other time of the year. Remember that you are responsible only for your own actions and for taking care of yourself.

For more info:top
NEDIC Bulletin: Vol. 7, Coping With the Holidays


“No” is not an ungodly word. It can, however, be a way to steward your temple, your life, taking care of a precious vessel God needs very much in this world.

Again, it’s okay. Say no if you need to.

And remember…

God bless, have a wonderful and guilt-free holiday season!

Copyright © 2017 by Sheryle Cruse

 

 

 

 

 

 




 

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Thursday, November 23, 2017

Angelfish: Just Float


 

 

This time of year, I love to watch the Thanksgiving holiday film, “Home For the Holidays.” It humorously captures the family dysfunction and stress as its female lead, Claudia, dreads spending time with her parents and siblings.
 



 

 

This dread prompts Claudia’s daughter to offer some calming advice, based on a snorkeling vacation, “Remember the Angelfish… Just float.”

 

With much emphasis on turkey dinners this holiday, there has not been a lot of attention to other birds. And forget about fish!

 

Yet, what struck me, as I watched this film, was the connection between fish and birds when it came to possessing a calm spirit in the face of anxious, emotion-filled circumstances, known as family holidays.

 “Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?

Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature. And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.”

 

Matthew 6:26-29

 

 “Are not five sparrows sold for two farthings, and not one of them is forgotten before God?”

Luke 12:6

 

“Now when he had left speaking, he said unto Simon, Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for a draught. And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net. And when they had this done, they inclosed a great multitude of fishes: and their net brake. And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.”

 

Luke 5:4-7

 

What do these scriptures have in common? The directive given is to not worry about the situations- family included- in our lives.

 

"Don't be afraid; just believe."

Mark 5:36

 

I know; it’s easier said than done. But the reality check of possibility is still there, nonetheless.

It’s reassurance, given to us, over and over again. Let’s take a look at a storm situation, once upon a time…

 

And when he was entered into a ship, his disciples followed him.

And, behold, there arose a great tempest in the sea, insomuch that the ship was covered with the waves: but he was asleep.

And his disciples came to him, and awoke him, saying, ‘Lord, save us: we perish.’

And he saith unto them, ‘Why are ye fearful, O ye of little faith?’ Then he arose, and rebuked the winds and the sea; and there was a great calm.”

Matthew 8:26

 

Great calm…

 

Ah, if only, right? If only that could extend to our relatives, to those special people who seem to have a talent in pushing all kinds of volatile personal upset buttons!

 

But God has promised to help us…

 

“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”

Isaiah 41:10

 

 “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”

Psalms 46:1

 

 

 “Storms,” after all, are a subjective thing for us, right?

 

Therefore, these scriptures mean the equivalent of our film’s famous line, “Just float.”

 

Need some help floating this holiday season? We all do.

 

“And it shall come to pass, that whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be delivered...”

Joel 2:32

 

So, please, as you make your way through these holidays, jam-packed with stressful gatherings and challenging people, call on that important name… and remember the Angelfish. Just float.

 

Copyright © 2017 by Sheryle Cruse