I once saw a black and white photograph of the ultra-thin model Twiggy eating what appeared to be a plate of batter- dipped fish and French fries.
And it provoked something. It had to do with the trigger-rife connection involving her thin physique and disordered food/body image concerns.
Twiggy (real name, Lesley Lawson) was world famous for
her look, one which showcased a boyish, thin body, short hair and large eyes
that were further accentuated by painted on eyelashes. Named "The Face of
1966" by The Daily
Express, she
took the 1960’s British Mod Scene and the fashion world by storm.
Yes, Twiggy was a game changer. And, because of her androgynous
and thin appearance, she has long been criticized for promoting unhealthy body
image messages.
Over the years, she has addressed those critiques when it
comes to the topic of eating disorders and her own body:
"I was very skinny, but that was just my natural
build. I always ate sensibly – being thin was in my genes.”
Reading that statement, therefore, brought up the concept
of beauty variation.
In today’s culture, there’s been an obsession with the
thin image. That’s no surprise. But, in more recent years, there’s been a
growing movement to promote a variation of body shapes and sizes. Curvy, “plus
size,” and “real woman” have been some of the buzz words used to describe and promote
a healthier, more inclusive definition of beauty. And that’s wonderful, and,
believe me, much needed, especially concerning impressionable youth.
But there is also another, less affirming and
healthy message, one which is anti-thin.
I know, this is coming from me, the recovering
anorexic and bulimic, who once weighed a low two-digit weight.
But there is a vast difference between the disorder
sufferer who goes to great, self-destructive lengths to become emaciated
and the individual whose body type is naturally thin.
When I was at the height of anorexia and at my lowest
weight, I had to employ extreme, dangerous and obsessive actions to achieve
that body. I starved myself and exercised for hours at a time. My thin frame
required intense manipulation to make it so.
But there are individuals who naturally have thin
frames. Years ago, when I came across the following statistic, the point
centered on how emaciated models rarely occur naturally.
“The body type portrayed in advertising as the
ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of the American females.”
The Renfrew
Center Foundation for Eating Disorders, “Eating Disorders: A Summary of Issues,
Statistics, and Resources”
And, in general,
that’s true. However, what is often overlooked is the actual presence
of these naturally thin females. Yes, they are a rarity; nevertheless, there,
indeed, are some individuals who are “naturally thin.”
I applaud body acceptance, embracing all sizes and shapes.
I believe it’s wrong to confine beauty to only a thin image- and an unhealthy
version of thin, at that.
But, if we believe “fat shaming” is wrong, then we also
need to acknowledge “thin shaming” is wrong as well.
It’s about challenging the image message. When in
doubt, talk about the matter. Have the conversation. Ask the questions.
If there is a possibility of disorder, address it. If something seems to be an
unhealthy image, talk about why it’s unhealthy.
But never, repeat, never, crucify the person.
She- or he- may or be suffering. Or she-or he- may be naturally
thin.
Regardless, talk, seek to find the answers and help as
needed.
Being thin is not the problem. Self-hating, extreme
mindsets and tactics, taken to exalt and create a life-threatening image,
however, are.
So, with that in mind, why not accept your form, as it is
right now, without conditions, without requirements? Take a page from a
favorite Scripture of mine…
“O my dove…let me see your form…for
your form is lovely.”
Song of Solomon 2:14
That Truth remains. It naturally occurs
for you; it naturally occurs for me.
Copyright © 2020 by
Sheryle Cruse
No comments:
Post a Comment