Craving

 

  

Valentine’s Day is all about cravings. We can’t escape the hard sell: the heart shaped candy, expensive roses, jewelry and romantic cards all point to that deep need for love. How are you faring with your craving situation?

Those of us who struggle with addiction know all too well about its insidious, impulsive nature. The definition of the word reads as follows:

“a strong desire for something, longing, desire, passion, hunger, thirst, yearning, hankering, yen, appetite.”

Yeah, that covers it. It’s that “thing” which speaks to us, drives us, tempts us and promises us that with it, be it substance, person, relationship, fixation or object, we’ll have the answers we need for our lives; we’ll be happy, peaceful and feel that warm fuzzy feeling of “love.”

So, how do we get on that rollercoaster in the first place?

Craving- Just Trying It:

It starts by tasting. Ah, yes, there’s nothing like getting hooked. Ever since that apple in Genesis, temptation and tasting have gone hand in hand.

But before we go any further, let’s give Eve a break. First of all, it was never in her plan to eat the apple and of course, experience that great fall we now grapple with to this day. After all, none of us aspire to becoming addicts, making horrible, destructive choices which negatively impact our lives. But, nevertheless, with the tasting, there is a start to it, right?

“But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden…”

Genesis 3:3

Like Eve, we go about our lives and, sooner or later, we spot our very own apple. It looks great, appealing, problem solving and peace giving.

“And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat…”

Genesis 3:6

So, we try it. We try it for whatever reason we justify to be a good reason.

For some of us, we are coping with abusive or painful experiences; we need an escape. For others, it’s a strategy to cover the deep insecurities of not being “good enough.” Some of us also fall into the cliché peer pressure, trying to fit in and find our place. These are just a few possible reasons we try something. But look closer. Look beyond the immediate reason. See anything? Do you see the need for God’s love yet?

I know. It sounds cliché. But think about how prevalent the love craving is today. Sappy songs, advertising which promises to make us more desirable and countless online dating sites are a few examples of its power. We’ve all listened to a love song, bought some perfume or cologne and thought about dating once or twice, haven’t we?

And now, there’s Valentine's Day. We are bombarded with the selling point. So, bring out the cupids, everything red, pink and heart-shaped! And bring out the unrealistic expectations, the disappointment and the food, drug and alcohol stupors, as we realize that, for whatever reason, the Valentine’s Day love promise didn’t deliver. So, we rationalize, perhaps, let’s taste something-try something- else. And around and around we go!

We go to everything and everyone else, seemingly, except God. Hi there! Remember Him?

That’s part of the problem. Many of us don’t know Him or we believe the lies about Him. Again, let’s go back to Genesis.

“And the serpent said unto the woman, ‘Ye shall not surely die.’”

Genesis 3:4

If Eve was deceived, how could any of us expect to avoid that trap ourselves? Whether the lie tells us our craving, our addiction or vice is not harmful or how God isn’t real, doesn’t love us and won’t help us in our lives, we fall for it constantly. We can be the most educated and sophisticated, but we still fall for it.

It’s because, at our core, we’re still convinced “our thing” is tastier than God. Tastier might mean more relevant, powerful, soothing or rewarding. Regardless of what it personally means to us, the scripture, is right on target!

“As it is written: ‘There is no one righteous, not even one; There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God.’”

Romans 3:10-11

 

Now, how’s that for warm and fuzzy! It’s not to make us feel like slimy garden slugs, but it is a reality check we can apply to our own addictions and compulsions. We are more convinced that object of our craving is our answer than we are of God being our answer.

We’re back to Genesis, Eve was already loved, valued and considered by God, as she was. She didn’t need to add anything “extra” to that reality. But somewhere, she entertained the lie telling her otherwise. She toyed with it; we focused on it. Ever so gradually, she wholeheartedly believed it to be truth. And that’s where things went awry.

Instead of already tasting God, savoring her current situation, she went looking- and tasting- elsewhere. That’s where we go astray. What if, in all of our searching, we actually tried God?

 “O taste and see that the LORD is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.”

Psalm 34:8

Contrast that result to our choice of refusal?

 “Hungry and thirsty, their soul fainted in them.”

Psalms 107:5

Well, that’s appealing! And how many of us have suffered some kind of “bottom” experience, fainting in some way because we refused God. It’s not God Who has distanced Himself from us; it’s us choosing to move further away from Him.

You’ve probably heard about “the black hole” or “the bottomless pit.” These terms are often used to describe the addictive state. It’s that endless searching, that despair-filled, frantic approach we engage in, as we attempt to stop our pain. Maybe you’ve even heard about the “God-shaped hole.” Having a need or, more accurately, an unmet need, is not a sin; it’s human. But that “God-shaped hole” means precisely that. It’s for God only. And God has promised to fill it with Him, not anything or anyone else.

“Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.”

Matthew 5:6

So, we may feel hungry and thirsty, but there is a remedy: Jesus.

 “And Jesus said unto them, I am the bread of life: he that cometh to me shall never hunger; and he that believeth on me shall never thirst.”

John 6:35

I’m not trying to dismiss your pain or your struggles with addictions, compulsions or disorders. They are real; they are painful. But please never forget there is a real God, with real answers and a real response to your longing:

“For he satisfieth the longing soul, and filleth the hungry soul with goodness.”

Psalms 107:9

There’s more to this response than filling, however. What is the point to it all? What is God’s first and largest response? C’mon, it’s not hard to decipher. It’s Love.

“God is Love”

1 John 4:16

We crave His love and we don’t even know it. That’s the spiritual root of the addictive nature. We go out looking for what we already have; His Love.

 “Since you were precious in my sight… I have loved you…”

Isaiah 43:4

“…‘Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.’”

                                                             Jeremiah 31:3             

“We love him, because he first loved us.”

1 John 4:19

And nothing, no craving, no addiction, choice or circumstance can ever keep Him from loving us!

 “For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Romans 8:38-39

Are you craving something right now? A drink? A drug? Some comfort food? A relationship or activity which is bad for you? What if we turned that craving toward God?

Believe it or not, God craves YOU!!!

“…‘Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love...”

                                                             Jeremiah 31:3             

So, let’s choose to feed that craving, even as we are right now! Whether or not we know it or believe it, God is addicted to loving US!

Copyright © 2021 by Sheryle Cruse