Recently,
on social media, I saw a brain teaser trending. It was an image that, at first
glance, looked like a face. It stated,
“Share when you see a word,” asking us to look beyond this face value.
And,
upon doing so, at a certain angle, one can see a dotted “I” where the nose/nostril
is, along with an “a” for the mouth and an “r” creating the chin and neck. And
starting the entire face, there is an elaborate “L,” making up the two eyes.
So,
when we spell the face, what word do we get?
Answer:
liar.
The
face of addiction, right there, ladies and gentlemen.
The
old joke asks,
How do you tell if
an addict is lying?
Answer: His/her lips
are moving.
That’s
some punchline truth, isn’t it?
Yes,
if you and I look at any form of our addictions, we inevitably encounter the
role our deception plays in their proliferation and their destruction of all we
hold dear.
Scripture
has much to say about truth versus lies, offering warnings and consequences
about the paths we choose. And we can see those spiritual principles in the
twelve steps. There’s incredible benefit in applying them should we choose to
do so.
The
first step confronts our powerlessness.
1.
We admitted we were powerless over our
addiction - that our lives had become unmanageable.
That usually shows up as a chaotic life, also known
as trouble.
“He whose tongue is deceitful falls into trouble.”
If
the disease is our addiction, then one of the first glaring symptoms we
experience is any kind of problem: relational, marital, financial, physical or
legal are a few examples of reality showcasing how unmanageable our lives have
become.
Therefore,
cue step number two...
We came to believe that a Power
greater than ourselves could restore us
to sanity.
As
we’re sorting through our individual representations of trouble, we hit a
reality wall of needing God. In short, we have to tell the truth to and about
ourselves.
And
that’s no easy feat. For, to operate in addiction, deception has become our
“go-to,” rescuing us from confrontation, responsibility, failure and
uncomfortable situations.
“You love evil rather than good, falsehood rather than
speaking the truth.”
But,
before we fall in love with our lying ways all over again, we need to remind
ourselves that our rock bottoms were all too painfully real.
We
need to remember our lies got us into the mess; God and His Truth, therefore,
will need to help extricate us from our various disasters.
So,
we are in a moment like no other. We need to decide what to do with our
addictions and our God. We need to answer a question. Will we accept or reject
His intervention in our lives?
Yes...or
no?
This
is called a decision. It’s also called the next step. Do we take it?
3.
We made a decision
to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
God,
by His very Nature, cannot lie (Numbers 23:19). Therefore, if we
expect to bring lies and excuses instead of brutal truth before Him, we are not
going to get the results we desire or need. And whatever results we DO obtain,
will not be sustained.
“Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only
a moment.”
Again,
we see the protection which comes from being in the truth...
“The truth shall set you free.”
John 8:32
But
that truth does not promise to be easy or painless. Often, facing truth is the
hardest thing we will ever do.
This,
therefore, is the work of steps four
through nine...
4.
We made a searching and fearless moral
inventory of ourselves.
5.
We admitted to God,
to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.
We were entirely
ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7.
We humbly asked
Him to remove our shortcomings.
8.
We made a list of
all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9.
We made direct
amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them
or others.
These
steps are focused on changed behavior. They exchange a destructive one for a
healthier one. These steps exchange lies for truth, evasiveness for
transparency. The reasons for these exchanges involve the relational, human
experience and our need to repair whatever damage we have caused.
“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak
truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”
Scripture,
again, brings it home: “we are all members of one body.”
And
this friendly reminder sets the stage for the purpose of the remaining steps, ten
through twelve...
10.
We continued to take personal inventory,
and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11.
We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we
understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power
to carry that out.
12.
Having had a
spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this
message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
We
started in a place of confronting and accepting ugly truth; then, we accepted
God’s help with it. Next, we needed to face and change behavior in the
relational context, accepting how our addiction caused pain and destruction.
Those are all important. But there’s still more work to do.
The
“more” of that work refers to its ongoing nature. We need to keep doing it. What is the recovery adage?
“It works if you work it.”
Scripture,
the twelve steps and truth all act as guardrails, hedging us in safely. And
that is a key point to remember as we choose truth over deception. It’s more
than just being a good, honest person; it is also about being a healthy, honest
person.
“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the
unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”
In
recovery, the expression goes, “You’re
as sick as your secrets.”
And,
for most of us, those secrets are some version of a lie- and some form of
impending destruction.
Therefore,
as we deal with our addictions and recovery from them, we need to do more than
just work the steps and the reading of some Bible verses. We need to truly
examine how both truth and deception operate in our lives- even to this day.
Like the image brain teaser, when we study what we think we already see, is
there, in fact, something quite different
there?
And
then, what are we going to do with that optical illusion’s actual truth?
Copyright © 2020 by Sheryle Cruse
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