UGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHH!!! It’s the day after Thanksgiving. Anyone out there recovering from their holiday comas yet?
Ain’t the aftermath fun?
Yeah, there are a lot of us out there who may be feeling horrible right now. How many of us “overdid it” on a “feast- focused” holiday? With eating disorders, especially, every issue, fear and regret gets amplified, doesn’t it? It’s not just the “day after,” for a lot of us out there, right now, it feels like “the end of the world.”
But it’s not. Whatever you’re feeling or dealing with now, please remember, it’s not hopeless. I love- and refer often- to this Scripture:
“Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.”
2 Corinthians 4:16
Okay, so maybe you “blew it” yesterday. Now you have today, a new day. And you always have God!!!
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?”
Romans 8:31
It’s not hopeless; you’re never hopeless. We will get through these holidays- and be blessed on top of it! God bless us and please remember: renewal is happening in our lives. It’s not hopeless!
Here's some strategies to get through the holidays; hope they help eveyone out there! Be healthy, happy and safe this season and Beyond! God has so much for each of us!
Holidays and special occasions are often very stressful periods for individuals with food and weight problems. The emphasis on spending time with family and on celebrating with food can be very difficult. Based on past experience, and an understanding of yourself and of the people close to you, you may be able to avoid, or cope constructively with, uncomfortable situations. For example:
- Predict high stress times and places; decide which events you will and won't attend, and plan to have some time to yourself to restore yourself and take care of your own needs.
- Predict which people might make you most uncomfortable and plan appropriate ways of excusing yourself from their company.
- If at all possible, allow yourself to enjoy a moderate amount of "special occasion foods."
- Predict what people might say that would lead you to feel uncomfortable. Plan and practice responses. Ask people not to comment on your body, appearance, or eating habits.
- Predict negative thoughts that you might have during the holidays, and practice thinking differently.
- Carry with you a list of phone numbers of friends and crisis lines, and a list of self-soothing activities.
It may be helpful to realize that the "picture-book" holiday sense is not a reality for many people. Some cannot afford it, there are many single people who are not close to their families or do not have a family, and there are many families that do not fit into the dominant cultural model of "family". Do not blame yourself for family or friendship conflicts. People are not different during the holidays than any other time of the year. Remember that you are responsible only for your own actions and for taking care of yourself.
National Eating Disorder Information Centre (NEDIC)
Ph: (416) 340-4156 (888-633-4220)
ADVICE FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
For individuals struggling with an eating disorder, the holidays can evoke feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. Although the media promotes holidays as a time of celebration, for someone with an eating disorder the holidays can be a reminder of an ongoing struggle to make peace with food. Providing support during the season and ensuring that the home is a place where they will not be judged is essential to the healing process. Here are some helpful tips as to how to create a positive environment.
:: When friends and/or family have not seen each other in a long time, they may be tempted to comment on changes in weight or appearance. Be a friend and help dissolve conversations or comments about food, weight, or overall appearance. You will be creating a more positive atmosphere for people to enjoy each other’s company and to remember the experience as a wonderful time.
:: Perhaps sitting down to one meal as a family would help someone struggling with an eating disorder feel more comfortable, instead of “grazing” on food throughout the day. Do not forget to discuss these options with your family and welcome all input.
:: Try to avoid emotionally charged discussions before or during mealtimes. The energy of a charged discussion can lead to feelings of anxiety. Often holidays are the only times people are able to catch up on experiences, political issues, sports, etc., but it is helpful to try and limit these types of electric conversations for after meals.
:: Indulging is a natural part of the holiday season. People eat foods they normally wouldn’t eat and often they end the day feeling very full and sometimes very regretful. For some people it is common to make comments like, “I feel so fat” or “I shouldn’t have eaten that much.” These comments can have a devastating effect on someone struggling with an eating disorder. Do not support or encourage these types of remarks.
:: Try to be a good role model for your loved one with an eating disorder. It is important for your loved one to witness your healthy eating as a way to connect with their feelings and priorities. Remember, eating disorders are about emotions and not about food.
:: It is not uncommon for eating disorder symptoms to increase during the holiday season. Try to avoid getting into power struggles over food and do not ever force someone to eat. Be positive and maintain a healthy, nonjudgmental attitude toward her behavior.
:: If your loved one is withdrawn or isolating herself from mealtime and other holiday activities, gently try to bring her into discussions or activities. If she rejects your efforts, do not take it personally and try to understand this behavior as part of her eating disorder. Always remember to take care of your own needs and to enjoy yourself, your family, and your friends.
:: Attempt to spend time connecting with your loved one struggling with an eating disorder in non-food related ways. Set time aside to take part in an activity of her choosing. Taking walks, playing games, or watching a movie together can help decrease anxiety by taking the focus off food and eating.
:: Do not forget to communicate with concerned members of the household. What feelings are emerging? Do they feel that they are handling the situation well? Seeking support and learning how to communicate feelings in a positive way is essential to understanding your role in the process of the recovery.
Information compiled by the Massachusetts Eating Disorder Association, Inc. 2002
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