Monday, March 31, 2014

I Think You Are Wonderful

Featured in the March 31st issue of Christians In Recovery, Cruse addresses the issue of self-image and God’s view of us, even as it pertains to addictions and compulsions.

Saturday, March 29, 2014

I have a question...

Do you have your own little paw raised, filled with questions about your life? 

I’d say that accounts for most, if not all, of us. There are so many questions. Uncertainty abounds. Perhaps you’re at a crossroads. Perhaps you’re recently reeling from a major mistake. Or maybe you’re just simply confused. Are you asking questions? Are you asking God questions?

When we’re children, we’re notorious for constantly asking why about the world around us. Why is the sky blue? Why is the grass green? Why do I have to eat my vegetables? As we mature, however, the why questions don’t go away. They just become more challenging. And so, often, we stop asking, discouraged. We can become cynical, broken adults, feeling shipwrecked about the state of our lives. Been there yet?
Fortunately, God never berates us for our why questions. He encourages us repeatedly to “ask.”

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:”
Matthew 7:7

Ask. A simple little word, but it contains so much power. For, when we turn our why questions to God, they have a way of turning into prayer, don’t they?

“And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.”
Matthew 21:22

That’s a double shot of power! No, it doesn’t mean that everything will be instantly fixed at that second. Often, we may not know the answer. But ask and keep on asking!

“Keep on asking and it will be given you; keep on seeking and you will find; keep on knocking [reverently] and [the door] will be opened to you.”
Matthew 7:7

Classic persistence! What are you asking? What’s your question? Have you turned it to God? Have you asked it in the Name of Jesus?

 “Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.”
John 16:24

Don’t be afraid of your questions; God knows them long before you do. And, in all of your asking, don’t forget to ask for wisdom.

 “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”
James 1:5

It may not be your desired, instantaneous answer to prayer you’re seeking, but wisdom will be there to bless and protect you in profound ways.

Keep going, keep asking. Think of how far you’ve already come in your life. Think of all of the questions you’ve asked which have led you to this point. That, in itself, is such an incredible miracle! God has not forgotten you. He’s listening for your question. Will you ask it?

Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Friday, March 28, 2014

Now repeat it


One of the hurdles I’ve been working on overcoming has been the extreme, all or nothing, kind of thinking. This approach to life can often lead to eating disorders and addictions. It certainly did with me.
If I wasn’t astonishingly beautiful, I was ugly. If I wasn’t impossibly rail thin, I was grotesquely obese. If I wasn’t completely perfect, then I was a miserable failure. Extremes.
But none of it was healthy or orderly. And, like the scripture goes…

Let all things be done decently and in order.”
1 Corinthians 14:40
Yeah. That wasn’t me.
Neither was the scripture…

"Let your moderation be known to all men".

Philippians 4:5

Nope, not me either.

Recently, I came across this image and quote from the late Marilyn Monroe. You know, the beauty icon and pop culture symbol.

And she makes a great point. While there’s nothing wrong with doing our best in life, each of us needs to be careful not to cross the line into believing we need to attain unrealistic standards of perfection. There’s no doubt Marilyn was beautiful, flawed and had a good heart. That comes through in the images and the stories about her.
But she recognizes her inability to attain the impossible perfection does not, however, disqualify and cancel her already existing qualities.
And how much more would God’s Word and His beliefs about us do the same thing…if we let that happen?
God says the following about us:

“Since you were precious in my sight… I have loved you…”
Isaiah 43:4

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
Psalm 139:14

O my dove…let me see your form…for your form is lovely.”
Song of Solomon  2:14

“…being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
Philippians 1:6

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Jeremiah 29:11

We’re not to have super-inflated ideas of ourselves. God doesn’t want arrogant or prideful thoughts. But we’re not to have a poor, wretched sense of self, either. The point to our lives is not image and perfection; it’s about relationship with God.

“He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?”
Micah 6:8

We need to keep in check what are attainable Godly requirements versus what are our own oppressive, rigid rules.
Moderation. Balance. Healthy perspective.

And no, not easy; it’s often a lifelong, work in progress which is, yes, imperfect.
But it can be done; it can be started, now, wherever you and I find ourselves in life.
God’s inviting us to think differently about ourselves and our lives? Will we?

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23
 Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Thursday, March 27, 2014

Don’t step on it...

Ain’t this the truth?

As a child, I had a painful association with the scale. Once upon a time, I saw it as only a weird square in the bathroom. It didn’t garner much attention from me; I was more interested in the blue windmill stencil designs lining the tub and my rubber ducky. It was just a square, taking up space.
However, suddenly, Mom placed me on this square- and I became conscious of what I weighed. Apparently, it wasn’t a good digit as, more frequently I needed to get on this square. Now, suddenly, I had a “weight problem.”
And ever since, I no longer see this particular square as just a square.
Through my entire childhood and adolescence, this square dictated my worth, which was never good enough, always too big, always too heavy.
That drove me to eating disorders, with the hope as I became more punishing of myself, more “dedicated,” well, then my two-digit weight as a young adult would mean triumph. It, however, never really did, of course. Because, I could always lose more weight and somehow, magivcally, “be better.”
On and on and on I went, into my own scale-obsessed hell...
It’s incredible what we think of this square. It’s supercharged with value, guilt, fear, loathing and importance. The scale, in so many bathrooms yells at us to think less of ourselves.
We give it that power.
We don’t have to, however. We could choose to give something else power in determining our value: God’s Word.

“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
Philippians 4:8

What if we measured ourselves by the following?

Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes.”
Song of Solomon 1:15

O my dove…let me see your form…for your form is lovely.”
Song of Solomon 2:14

“Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.”
Song of Solomon 4:7

What if we stepped into these scriptures instead? God created our steps for far better things!

“The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD: and he delighteth in his way.”
 Psalms 37:2
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Glory to Glory (Not all right now)

We live in an instant ta-dah culture; we want everything two days ago. Who else is impatient besides me? Be honest. Yeah.
In life, whether or not we’re in recovery, we want to “arrive” already, fully finished, perfect and dazzling. That, however, doesn’t quite happen (cue eye roll). I know. We want our stuff: our blessings, our miracles, our breakthroughs and our “happily ever after’s” now! RIGHT NOW!
But that thinking IS NOT God’s thinking:

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:8-9
So, that means process…waiting…
I know, it’s frustrating. But there is a purpose to waiting, to not getting it all at once. We not supposed to have everything at once. The glory process we’re on needs to catch up with our learning curve.

“But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
2 Corinthians 3:18

And, let’s face it, we can be slow learners, can’t we?
What if God has something incredible for us, but we need to do a few things first?
What if we need to mature? Correct behavior? Learn something?
I love a sentiment I once caught on a decorative wall hanging:
“God answers our prayers in one of three ways: ‘yes,’ ‘not yet’ and ‘I have something better in mind.’”
Does that make our minds go clunk?
Wherever we are, we are in process. As wonderful and easy as the “perfect” answer may appear to be, God is far more concerned about our character issues and development. Process. Not fun, easy or gratifying so much of the time. But necessary? Worth it? Ding! Ding! Ding!
Any bells going off? What if we trusted the process, with God IN it for our lives, prayers and desires! We ARE going from glory to glory. We’re just at this particular glory. But, there IS more!
Don’t stop the process!
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Saturday, March 22, 2014

The Power Of Toxic Emotions...

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23

Thursday, March 20, 2014

I Had No Idea

Featured in the March 2014 issue of Serene Scene Magazine, Cruse discusses the signs, often overlooked, of disordered eating and image issues. Unfortunately, “I had no idea” is often the reaction we have when someone we know is struggling. Recovery and support, however, can be our responses to these matters instead. There IS hope!

Consider Some Lilies

With this being the first day of spring, certain thoughts become more prevalent: spring break, getting in shape for summer and more revealing clothing and all manner of negative body image issues in response to life’s reality. We seem to consider anything which is critical, negative and punishing.
But what about considering some lilies?

“And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.”
Matthew 6:28-29

Wouldn’t it be healthier if, on this first day of spring, we could gear our minds towards the beauty of who we actually are, according to God’s perspective?

 “Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes.”
Song of Solomon 1:15

 “I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.”
Song of Solomon 2: 1-2

 “O my dove…let me see your form…for your form is lovely.”
Song of Solomon 2:14

 “Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.”
Song of Solomon 4:7

It’s worth considering.
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Just a Cookie

What’s addiction all about? If it causes such pain and negative consequences, why do we continue to engage in it?
As someone who’s struggled with eating disorders and worked through years of recovery, I see over and over again, how I kept looking to food, diets, rituals and all manner of behaviors to be my answer to my problems. In short, I put my trust in anything and everything except God.
Scripture talks a lot about idolatry. It’s generally viewed as a big no-no. After all, God gets right to the point with the first commandment:

“Thou shalt have no other gods before me.”
Exodus 20:3; Deuteronomy 5:7

But I saw repeatedly how my own eating disorder behavior directly flew in the face of that very commandment. I was trying, as an impossibly imperfect human being, to do things my way.
I had visions of Frank Sinatra singing the empowering song of individual freedom and independence. What I got, however, were stifling eating disorders.
So much for my bright ideas, huh?
Indeed, my desperate nature wanted to be soothed and comforted for a multitude of reasons: abuse, rejection, loneliness and fear, to name a few. And none of those reasons were sinful; they were what they were. But my choice to look outside of God was, dare I say, sinful.
 Sinful. That’s a harsh word. Did I choose to have eating disorders? No, I don’t believe I did. But did I choose my choices which eventually led me down that road? Oh yes, I did.
The word “sin” is often described as “missing the mark.” It’s a lighter touch than a descriptive definition of willful and evil disobedience to God. “sin” never is a feel good word; that’s for sure. I’ve gone several rounds with God praying for forgiveness of my sins, asking for help, trying not to look at and deal with them.
But, for a moment, let’s just examine the “sin” word through that “missing the mark” definition. After all, God doesn’t want to pulverize anyone. Scripture tells us…

“The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.”
2 Peter 3:9

So, that’s a breather right there. God’s opposition to sin is not because He wants to ruin all of our fun. It’s because that sin gets us astray from the best, most blessed and beneficial mark for our lives; we downright miss that mark by following sin.
And that idea to miss the mark starts with a decision. And that decision starts with a thought. One tiny, seemingly innocent little thought.

“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he...”
Proverbs 23:7

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Proverbs 4:23
Again, yikes.

 For me, that one little thought was that food would be my answer: to comfort, to companionship, to control, to entertainment and to love. And with that thought as a baseline, it set the stage for all of my other disordered eating issues and behaviors. Later on, starvation, binge overeating, excessive exercise, deceit and control tactics were additional layers which were added, convincing me “this” was the answer I could trust.
However, of course, none of them were. Instead, each one of them only pulled me deeper into prison, unhealthy choices, fear and shame. Not what I chose, but, by virtue of that thought, leading to wrong choice after wrong choice, it was exactly what I got.
A lot of us like Chinese food. And, what comes as a dessert treat with the meal is the fortune cookie. We crack it open to reveal a tiny paper fortune. It’s usually way above my head, spouting something about wisdom or strength. But how many of us don’t even focus past the actual cookie itself for some answer?

“It” may not be an actual cookie which is your Achilles heel, but it’s something isn’t it? Something you, yourself, through a thought, a decision, have ordained to be your answer. It could be a pint of ice cream, a shot of Bourbon, a line of cocaine, a hit of speed, another bet on the horses or a rendezvous with that person who is “bad”: for you. But whatever “it” is, it is not your answer. God is.
Scripture reminds us…

 “….Blessed are all they that put their trust in him.”
Psalm 2:12

So, what’s unsaid is, perhaps, “cursed are all they that put their trust in (Fill in the blank with your ‘it?’)”
Again, it’s not comforting, like thinking on the word “sin.” But each of us really needs to get real with who- and what- we place our trust in. Nothing else will save or work for us. The fortune cookie will not work. 

Only God…only God…
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Better than you believe...

Food Fight

Back in the 1970’s, the classic film, “Animal House” famously depicted John Belushi’s character starting a food fight in the college cafeteria. It’s filled with hilarity and chaos and it got me thinking. This food fight scene can, perhaps, be symbolic for any of us struggling with disordered food and eating issues. While it’s nowhere near as fun or funny, the food fight, nevertheless, exists.

Years in to recovery, I’ve done much soul searching. The soul: the mind, the will and the emotions. That’s where we get tripped up. And it stems from a few reasons.

First, it has to do with our relationship with food. We can place inappropriate importance to it.

“Is not life more than food?”
Jesus, in Matthew 6:25

It’s meant to keep us alive and healthy. It’s not meant to entertain, console us or replace our relationship with God and other people.

Yet, for many of us with disordered eating issues, that is precisely what we do.

 “But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.”
Romans 7:23

Yes, we’re at war. It’s partly because we have a wrong view of God-created food. We need to get His perspective on it to better help us in our own viewpoints.

Once again, we’re back to God. Simply stated, God tells us to eat:

“And as he lay and slept under a juniper tree, behold, then an angel touched him, and said unto him, ‘Arise and eat.’”
1 Kings 19:5

“So he set it before them, and they did eat, and left thereof, according to the word of the LORD.”
2 Kings 4:44

And even in spite the Bible’s mention of fasting as a spiritual practice, He, nevertheless, still wants us healthy and prospering.

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”
3 John 1:2

But it’s not about food; it’s about God. And yes, as far as He’s concerned, eating is a part of life.

“And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,”
Acts 2:46

He created food. Ever since Genesis, He considered it good.

“And the earth brought forth grass, and herb yielding seed after his kind, and the tree yielding fruit, whose seed was in itself, after his kind: and God saw that it was good.”
Genesis 1:12

It’s we who determine if something is a “good or bad food.”

 “For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs.”
Romans 14:2

That’s why God instructs us to be sensitive to others who are struggling...

 “Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make my brother to offend.”
1 Corinthians 8:13

Nevertheless, there’s nothing off limits.

“All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.”
1 Corinthians 10:23

“All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”
1 Corinthians 6:12

There’s varying degrees of healthy choices out there; it’s not a “good” or “bad” options. Once we know that, we can be better armed for freedom and can participate more fully in a close and healthy relationship with both God AND food. We can, indeed, “do all for the glory of God.”

 “He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks.”
Romans 14:6

 “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”
1 Corinthians 10:31

It’s not a perfect process; it’s ongoing, filled with teachable moments.

And that’s inspiring and comforting. If we have engaged in any kind of “food fight,” God can help us live and win concerning it.

The horse is prepared against the day of battle: but safety is of the LORD.”
Proverbs 21:31
“But thanks be to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”
1 Corinthians 15:57
But, again, we need to remind ourselves it’s not a perfect process.

And, because it is a process, it is not instantaneous. It’s about daily decisions; it’s about setbacks and triumphs. It’s about learning and discovering our unique one- on- one relationship with God. That takes work and time. And yes, sometimes it feels like a fight against ourselves and our issues.

So, the next time we catch ourselves in the middle of a food fight, let’s direct it to God and look at it through His perspective.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:8-9

And let’s not label ourselves as defeated. That is not who we are. God always sees us differently:

“Since you were precious in my sight… I have loved you…”
Isaiah 43:4

 “But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
2 Corinthians 3:18

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Jeremiah 29:11

It’s time we arm ourselves for battle with THAT!
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse

A Great Perspective To Have...

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

The Dress

Appearing in Christians In Recovery March 18th issue, this article examines the importance of image as goal when it comes to distorted body image and disordered eating issues.

Crossroad (The Blessing of Being Kept Safe While Frustrated)

There’s a saying out there: delay is not denial. I don’t know about you, but those words can really chap my hide. Perhaps you’re more patient and enlightened than I am. Perhaps you have a handle on life situations. But are there any of you out there who are as annoyed by that statement as I am?
File this under work in progress stuff?

Looking at this image of a mother duck leading her little goslings reminds me of the scriptures, Luke 13:34; Matthew 23:37:

“…how often would I have gathered thy children together, as a hen doth gather her brood under her wings, and ye would not!”

Jesus, in His tremendous love for Jerusalem (and really, on a broader scale, for all of us), declared a desperate, frustrated plea. He wanted to gather and protect us…from what, though? Was He trying to protect us from danger, from circumstances, from ourselves, maybe?
You know another quote out there as well; we can be our own worst enemies.
Sigh here with recognition of the unflattering truth.
Patience has never quite been my strong suit. I was always the kid who was trying to see inside wrapped Christmas presents, just hoping that, perhaps I “accidentally” tore the wrapping paper enough to see what was inside. Greed drove my patience, but so did anxiety as well. Can you relate?
When I was a kid in my physical education class, anxiety was my word of the day. I dreaded the class because, uncoordinated me knew I was horrible at playing most games and sports. I carried anxiety with me as my physical education teacher tried to expose us child hooligans to different things, like shuffleboard and bowling, things other than tag and kickball. She gave a valiant effort to turn us into renaissance hooligans. Somehow, however, I don’t think that particular dream of hers was ever fully realized.
Anyway, one such attempt at enlightenment was when we were introduced to archery. That’s right. Nine and ten year old kids walked into a gym one fine school day to see bullseye targets at the far end of the gymnasium and shooting stations twenty to thirty feet away from the targets, holding a bow and a set of arrows.  
I thought, how bad could it be? There was no running, after all. Just point and shoot.
As the rowdy bunch of us hooligan goslings chatted and oohed over this new game, our physical education teacher was trying to instruct us- and warn us about the dangers of archery. Just because it was a game, and maybe even a fun game, at that, didn’t, however, mean that we could just bulldoze our way a-shooting. Not unless some of us wanted to wear an arrow through a particular limb or achieve some unintentional ear piercing of our own.  
As much of a drag as it was to listen to the teacher, it was necessary. She informed us of the importance of shooting your five arrows at the target when she blew her whistle. And once you’ve shot all of them, you’re to remain at your station until everyone is finished or she again blows her whistle, whichever one comes first. Simple, right?
But, inevitably, someone, after their arrows were shot, would “forget” and start heading for the target to pick them up. That’s right. While arrows are still whizzing by, there’s a nine or ten year old hooligan trekking for the bullseye. Perhaps he or she forgot the warning. Perhaps he or she was caught up in the excitement. Perhaps he or she was too impatient to wait. Or, maybe, like me, there were kids who were just too anxious, wanting to get the session over with as soon as possible. Whatever the case, it would be no more than a few seconds before the whole class would hear a shrieking whistle blown and the archery session halted.
And how many of us have had instances when a warning whistle, scream or shout came our way? You may never have had an archery moment, but you probably have had some kind of near miss or close call. Maybe it’s even been in pursuit of some fun or desired thing you went after full steam ahead. Fun and desired things have their place, but what if there’s a danger in  pursuing them? What if what we chase and want requires God’s crossing guard guidance to ensure we’ll get to the other side of the street successfully and safely?
The cliché is true: “be careful what you want because you just might get it. “But we argue back, “I want it NOW!” We whine, “I don’t want to wait.” We think we’re ready and deserving of that coveted thing instantly and immediately, if not sooner.
But God knows the real deal.
He knows every single crossroad in our lives. He knows our desires and thoughts. 

“O Lord, you have searched me
and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you know it completely, O Lord.”
Psalm 139:1-4
“How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand.
When I awake,
I am still with you.”
Psalm 139:17-18

Heck, He even weighs our intentions.

“All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the LORD weigheth the spirits.”
Proverbs 16:2

And, He knows what that thing will do to us.

Your eyes saw my unformed body.
All the days ordained for me
were written in your book
before one of them came to be.”
Psalm 139:16

Ah yes, not just our immaturity is being assessed, but also our character as well. Wonderful. So, it might do us some good to slow down, even stop, and look to God to guide our next move.

“Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Psalm 139:23-24

There are a lot of arrows whizzing by us in our daily lives. God is a loving and protecting God, but what if we’re insisting on rebelling against that reality?
In the recovery world, there’s phrase that I’ve personally used and have witnessed in others: “fighting your help.” We often go through interventions, “hit bottoms” and risk our families, lives and health, all because we spend our energy fighting our help. We fight people; we fight God. And that’s always such a brilliant strategy, isn’t it?
Meanwhile, God wants to lavish us with His love and blessings by leading us through His Word. Jesus is the embodiment of that guiding Word. He’s not called “the good shepherd” for nothing, right?
Going back to the image of a mother duck leading her offspring safely across the street, we see how not one of them gets ahead of mama. It’s a simple principle, yet we have such a difficult time heeding it: follow God.
Are we doing that? Or, are we going our own way, quacking in our ignorance, impatience and stubborn ways? Perhaps, not getting what we want is the blessing. Perhaps not obtaining that thing we desire is exactly what we need to keep us safe.
We don’t know the whole story. But God does. And God hasn’t changed His Mind about how it will turn out for us:

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Jeremiah 29:11

Don’t let the following statement Jesus uttered be said about you:

“…how often would I have gathered thy children together, as a hen doth gather her brood under her wings, and ye would not!”

Are you darting out on a crossroad without looking for God’s direction? Stop. Look both ways and look to God before you cross that street.

Don’t fight your help; don’t fight God.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
Proverbs 3:5-6
Copyright © 2014 by Sheryle Cruse